Question: My boyfriend is very big. I started to try anal, but it really hurt. What should I do, City Girl? Answer: Communication and patience are your friends! This is why I don't recommend having casual anal sex. If you are in a relationship with someone, you should be able to talk about things openly […]
You don’t do anal sex?!? All the girls do it now. — Statement made to a recently divorced woman from a guy she had started dating When a friend of that woman relayed that comment to me, I rolled my eyes and shook my head. Me: I hope she responded that ‘All guys aren’t going […]
If you haven't read Part I of the Anal Play for the Straight Guy series, click here. An Arlington Boy Guest Post: Okay, so now your new plaything has come in the mail. And much to your relief, the packaging didn't read: CONTENTS: ONE ASS BLASTER 6000. WARNING! RECIPIENT IS MOST LIKELY SOME KINDA PERVERT […]
An Arlington Boy Guest Post: Months ago, I emailed City Girl with a burning question. I read some of her comments about anal sex and, as a result, was honestly curious about anal self-pleasuring and wanted some good advice on going about trying it out for myself. She gave me some absolutely incredible tips, and […]
One of my favorite bloggers sent me a great question via comment in response to my Anal 3.0 post: I am a man and have no interest in anal sex. Does this make me a prude? How should I discuss this with a woman who really enjoys it? His question made me think about the […]
After writing my previous posts about anal sex, I've received several questions about the topic. Here are some of my thoughts to those questions, as we delve into the back story about anal:* 1. Will it hurt? Yes, of course. It's not exactly like putting a square peg in a round hole, but there's a […]
During the Rodney King protests in 1992, I didn’t understand how the protest on my campus related to me. I think of numerous times in my teens and 20s when I did not speak up, made biased-filled assumptions or turned a situation that was not about me into a tear-filled response. In my junior year in […]
How have I approached unpacking some popular children’s books with my daughter? Check this post out for why this is important and some general critical thinking strategies. Now, let’s get started with The Bad Seed by Jory John. In this book, a darker-colored, more masculine presenting seed is criticized for being bad. Most of the […]
In my previous post, I asked whether predominantly-white schools center whiteness in a way that “others” Black families. I hear from fellow white parents that their children’s school does diversity well. But, how do we know? How does the school know? Is diversity code for diversity for white people? Here are my thoughts to help […]
Three years ago, I wrote about my relationship with The Man and had introduced him to my close friends and family. I met The Man at my end-of-treatment fundraising celebration, and our relationship was on the fast track soon thereafter. Just how fast? February 2012: We started dating. April 2012: I had a double mastectomy. June […]