Over the years, quite a few friends have asked me about anal sex. What does it feel like? What are my tips for trying it out? I am obviously very open about my sexuality, and I view myself as an Anal Ambassador of sorts. So, I developed an Anal 101 Spiel for my friends. Several […]
Question: My boyfriend is very big. I started to try anal, but it really hurt. What should I do, City Girl? Answer: Communication and patience are your friends! This is why I don't recommend having casual anal sex. If you are in a relationship with someone, you should be able to talk about things openly […]
How do you define sex? I’ve written about this topic before, and I acknowledge that my definition has been very heteronormative. I’m a straight female who has only had sex with male partners. I consider it sex when there’s penetration vaginally or anally, but I don’t consider it sex when I give or receive oral […]
You don’t do anal sex?!? All the girls do it now. — Statement made to a recently divorced woman from a guy she had started dating When a friend of that woman relayed that comment to me, I rolled my eyes and shook my head. Me: I hope she responded that ‘All guys aren’t going […]
I have been frequenting L2 Lounge quite a bit recently. When people ask what I do (which is usually the first question that people in DC ask of each other), I mention that I'm an attorney and a blogger. The following is representative of the conversation that ensues: Q: What do you blog about? A: […]
An Arlington Boy Guest Post: Months ago, I emailed City Girl with a burning question. I read some of her comments about anal sex and, as a result, was honestly curious about anal self-pleasuring and wanted some good advice on going about trying it out for myself. She gave me some absolutely incredible tips, and […]
A comment from one of blog friends got me thinking about how I have sex in the shower…logistically. Yes, there are space constraints, running water and slippery surfaces to contend with, but sex in the shower can work. In fact, sex in the shower can be incredibly hot and a welcome change of pace from […]
One of my favorite bloggers sent me a great question via comment in response to my Anal 3.0 post: I am a man and have no interest in anal sex. Does this make me a prude? How should I discuss this with a woman who really enjoys it? His question made me think about the […]
After writing my previous posts about anal sex, I've received several questions about the topic. Here are some of my thoughts to those questions, as we delve into the back story about anal:* 1. Will it hurt? Yes, of course. It's not exactly like putting a square peg in a round hole, but there's a […]
Two friends recently approached me with almost identical questions about what to do when sex is painful: I have endometriosis and having sex hurts. I don't even really like having sex because it's so painful, but I try to do so every now and then. If I don't keep my husband happy, I worry that […]