Question: My boyfriend is very big. I started to try anal, but it really hurt. What should I do, City Girl? Answer: Communication and patience are your friends! This is why I don't recommend having casual anal sex. If you are in a relationship with someone, you should be able to talk about things openly […]
How do you define sex? I’ve written about this topic before, and I acknowledge that my definition has been very heteronormative. I’m a straight female who has only had sex with male partners. I consider it sex when there’s penetration vaginally or anally, but I don’t consider it sex when I give or receive oral […]
You don’t do anal sex?!? All the girls do it now. — Statement made to a recently divorced woman from a guy she had started dating When a friend of that woman relayed that comment to me, I rolled my eyes and shook my head. Me: I hope she responded that ‘All guys aren’t going […]
An Arlington Boy Guest Post: Months ago, I emailed City Girl with a burning question. I read some of her comments about anal sex and, as a result, was honestly curious about anal self-pleasuring and wanted some good advice on going about trying it out for myself. She gave me some absolutely incredible tips, and […]
One of my favorite bloggers sent me a great question via comment in response to my Anal 3.0 post: I am a man and have no interest in anal sex. Does this make me a prude? How should I discuss this with a woman who really enjoys it? His question made me think about the […]
After writing my previous posts about anal sex, I've received several questions about the topic. Here are some of my thoughts to those questions, as we delve into the back story about anal:* 1. Will it hurt? Yes, of course. It's not exactly like putting a square peg in a round hole, but there's a […]
Two friends recently approached me with almost identical questions about what to do when sex is painful: I have endometriosis and having sex hurts. I don't even really like having sex because it's so painful, but I try to do so every now and then. If I don't keep my husband happy, I worry that […]
Are there any sexual restrictions during pregnancy? Dr. OB posed that question to the expectant moms in attendance during the mandatory first trimester class. The answer? Pregnant women should feel comfortable having sex as much as they want during pregnancy. Sexual activity won’t hurt the baby-to-be since the uterine muscles and amniotic fluid protect the […]
A female friend recently asked me for my top sex toy picks. Which are the crème de la crème? In no particular order, I give my highest Squeals of Approval to these body-friendly toys: Lelo Siri: This small toy is designed for clitoral use, but can also be rubbed over nipples, the outside of the […]
“Do you tell all the guys you see that you're dating around, or is it just assumed that everyone does it? If someone is seeing you exclusively, do you ever feel bad about not reciprocating? I'm trying to figure my own stuff out, so I'm comparing notes.” When I received that question in my Formspring […]