In 2011, Best Boy and I went from seeing each other twice a week to once a week. (I wasn't exactly sure why that was, but I didn't have a problem with it either.) In February, I saw him shortly before I headed off to the beach with Philly Matt and my friends.
Th events that transpired at the beach marked the end of my friendship with Philly Matt. I texted Best Boy on my ride home from Rehoboth, saying:
Any chance you’re free tonight? Long weekend. Would love one of your hugs.
Best Boy: Heading downtown for a meeting. Will come over after. Hope you're ok.
When Best Boy arrived at my place, he was comforting. I didn’t want to talk about what had happened over the weekend. I just wanted him to hold me close, and he did that without me asking him.
Best Boy and I had sex that evening, and again in the morning. It wasn’t mind-blowing, but I was content with our sexual routine.
As we were laying in bed talking, I commented:
I just want my old life back. I’m tired of feeling so sick all the time and looking like this. What kind of cruel joke is it to get a type of cancer that causes you to gain weight?
Best Boy: You don't look like you’ve gained weight.
Me [staring at him with wide eyes]: I’ve gained 23 pounds!
Best Boy lifted up the covers and really looked at my body.
Best Boy: Where?!? I don’t see it.
I kissed him and shook my head with a smile on my face.
Me: Thighs, belly, ass. All over. [I laugh.] You flatter me, but I’ll take it!
Later, as we were both working on my couch, Best Boy asked me what had happened at the beach. I gave him a brief summary of events, and we got into an interesting discussion about the Friends’ Code.
Is it acceptable to sleep with your ex's friends or your friends' exes? Does it matter how close you are to the friend or were to the ex?
Best Boy and I fell into a similar camp in that it depended on whether we loved the ex or not. He recalled how I had tried to set him up with my friend, D, back in September.
Me: Yeah, I so tried to make that one happen for you! But, that was then. I would not be cool with that now.
Best Boy: You wouldn’t?
Me: No. I care about you too much now to be okay with that.
We talked about how the situation applied to our relationship. To this day, I don’t know if Mr. Exec is truly okay with how close Best Boy and I have gotten. But, the fact that Mr. Exec and I never loved each other or were that serious mattered – to all three of us.
When Best Boy headed off to work, I gave him a long hug and kiss goodbye.
Me: Thank you. For everything.
Best Boy was important to me, but I still didn’t feel like I knew if our relationship was going anywhere. And, if so, where?
I decided not to spend too much time overanalyzing what Best Boy and I were and where we were going. I knew that time would tell.
As a postscript:
For those of you who are interested in what I looked like bald and heavy from steroids, click here to see my interview on Let’s Talk Live.