I traditionally don’t date younger men. It’s not a rule that I have, but more of a preference. Someone my age or a few years older tends to be a better match for me personally and more relatable professionally. So, imagine my surprise when I was asked out by a guy who graduated high school the same year that I graduated law school. I’ve heard the term, “Puma,” used to describe a woman in her 30s who is dating a guy in his 20s. But, is there a Puma inside of this City Girl?
A few friends told me to “Go For It!” If Cameron Diaz and Drew Barrymore can do it, it has to be en vogue, right? I’ve gone out on a dates with guys who are 8-10 years younger than me, but have never seriously dated anyone that young. A 20-something guy can be full of energy under the sheets, but what happens when the initial cute factor wears off? I need a man to challenge and inspire me, not a boy looking for direction in his life.
Signs that I might not even care to grab a drink with this particular guy:
1. He asked which school I went to, and I responded with a well-respected women’s college. To which he replied, “That’s a smart school.” Umm…yeah. I didn’t even think he could handle the information that I was a lawyer and back in school to complete a third degree so I kept that information to myself;
2. He brought up the fact that I am in my prime at 35. (The two guys in their 20s who I dated in the past were also very-focused on this, too.) I’m all for research and statistics, but I’d like to think that women get better and better with age. 35 is my prime for now, but I bet I’ll be even more in my prime (sexually and otherwise) at 45;
3. He wanted to meet me at a bar…at 11pm…while he was with his buddies. I realize that all dates don’t need to be romantic or expensive, but I’m more of a one-on-one date kind of girl. I’m also used to coming home at 11pm, not going out at that hour; and
4. He asked if I was single and ready to mingle. Seriously.
I’ve been told that I have an aggressive personality with guys. However, I don’t think I’ll be “Roarrring” with a younger guy anytime soon. This City Girl needs a guy with Ferragamo or Prada loafers on his feet, not Puma sneakers, to bring out the Tigress in her.