As a disclaimer, I realize that all guys are not the same and that what works for one cock might not work for another. But, here are my musings about giving a great blow job.

1. How hot is your guy? You want your guy hot, not warm. You want to feel how hard he is before you even take his pants or his briefs/boxers off. If you can't tell if he's really into it, spend more time with his mouth on your mouth or tits, while your hand rubs his cock over his clothes.

2. Wet is better than dry. You know how it feels if you aren't wet and a guy goes inside you. Well, that works both ways. I like starting with a hand job before I take the cock inside my mouth. A little bit of your saliva in your palm should do the trick. Another option is a lube or a gel especially for blow jobs called Good Head. Go with the mint flavor and use sparingly for some added tingling.

An advantage to giving blow jobs in the shower is that the warm water helps to get and keep your man hard. Have your partner stand with his back facing the water, while you're on your knees facing him. (That ensures that neither or you will get drenched.)

3. If you aren't in the shower, find a place that's comfortable for you both. If your man is on top, make sure that your neck is in a relaxed position and that you can easily move your head up and down. It's typically easiest to be sitting between his legs or on your knees in front of him. That maximizes comfort and gives you the best angle.

4. Tease the cock for a bit. Take your tongue from the bottom of the shaft (the part facing you) all the way to the top — slowly, lingering for an extra couple of seconds where the tip meets the shaft and then again at the very top. Or, lick your nipples and take your tits up and down his shaft for a little. Most straight guys like boobs, and few will protest a titty massage of their cocks.

5. When your tongue is at the tip (where the hole is) of the cock, take the cock slowly and fully into your mouth, pausing a bit before you take in the last inch. Most sex educators recommend using the side of your mouth. As an alternative, you can use the center so your man's cock is all the way down your throat. That can provide you with better range, more use of your lips and tongue, and less chance of teeth mishaps. If you have a very sensitive gag reflex, that mode probably won't work, though. But, if you haven't tried that before, why not give it a go?

6. The rhythm of your mouth going up and down the cock should depend on how your guy is responding (breath, words, moans and/or what he's doing with his hands). Start with a slower pace, build up to a faster pace, move on to a slower pace again for just a minute, and then go for the big finish (jazz hands optional).

A few things to keep in mind:

Take his cock as deep in your mouth as you can as often as you can. When you get to the bottom, stay just like that for a bit before you go back up.

Breathe through your nose so you don't have to exhale as often. Have you practiced yoga or meditation? Use that experience to your advantage. The more time with his cock in your mouth equates to more pleasure for him.

All hands on cock! Well, maybe not both of them, but at least one. Use your hand to follow your mouth up and down the shaft of the cock. As you go up and down with your mouth, you can also alternate between moving your hand straight up and down the shaft with just gripping the base of the shaft. If balance isn't a problem for you, take your other hand and gently massage his balls or lick your index finger and rub the sensitive spot between his cock and his ass.

If you are gasping for air, it's okay to switch things up a bit, but play it off like it's part of the blow job. (Save the panting and gasping for him, if you can.) Keep your one hand going up and down the cock with a twist of your wrist at the tip. Lick the tip or his balls for a minute until you catch your breath. Or you can use your hand up and down and jerk him off for a few strokes between your tits.

Try taking his cock in your mouth as deep as it can go down the back of your throat. As you move your mouth back up, follow it with your hand and do the wrist twist once you get to the tip. (Every guy is different, though, so I hope that you listen and watch his cues, as he does yours.)

Are there any BJ moves that your man raves about? Any problems or concerns that I didn't address?

Until then, Bon(er) Appetit!